influence

But you are free …

Being told what to do can bring out the rebel in all of us.  But, there is a technique that can assist – the “but you are free” technique. Researchers asked people on the street to donate money to a cause and 10.0% contributed. However, when the researchers added the words “but you are free …

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The Gentle Art of Disagreeing

A lot of us choose to avoid confrontation.  This means that we avoid sharing our thoughts, and can be seen as not moving fast enough, hedging our bets or not saying what we plan to do. On the other hand, there is the person who loves to confront, to challenge and to win an argument …

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Who’s Making the Decision?

We’ve all been there.  We’ve just presented a great argument – we are all on the same page. And then we hear it: “This makes sense. I just need to discuss this with __________ So, it’s ok that they discuss it, it’s just, if you’d known, you would have taken a different tack. Fortunately, from …

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Why oh why?

The questions we ask ourselves, along with the questions we ask of others, have the ability to dramatically change our lives.  Questions are incredibly powerful tools for effective communication. Let’s explore this by thinking about our own self-talk.  Self-talk is really just a series of questions and answers.  Think back to a recent time when …

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How to be understood

Communication is so much more than language.  When we interpret what someone is saying, we process their message like this: Verbal        7% Tonality     38% Physiology  55% Or to put it another way the song we hear (communication) is made up of the lyrics (words), tune (tonality) and rhythm (body language). …

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