communication

From uncertainty to certainty

Most of us are not good at not knowing.  We like sure things and guarantees.  And within the brain, a sense of uncertainty about the future creates generates a strong threat or ‘alert’ response in your limbic system. Your brain detects something is wrong, and your ability to focus on other issues diminishes. This is …

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I’m just a little curious…

How good we are at communicating can only be determined by the response. So what do we do when we have a very clear objective and message, and we are not sure of the response? Introducing the ‘softener’. The most obvious softeners are ‘please’ and ‘thank you’”. They are indicators of politeness and are necessary …

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Why oh why?

The questions we ask ourselves, along with the questions we ask of others, have the ability to dramatically change our lives.  Questions are incredibly powerful tools for effective communication. Let’s explore this by thinking about our own self-talk.  Self-talk is really just a series of questions and answers.  Think back to a recent time when …

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How to be understood

Communication is so much more than language.  When we interpret what someone is saying, we process their message like this: Verbal        7% Tonality     38% Physiology  55% Or to put it another way the song we hear (communication) is made up of the lyrics (words), tune (tonality) and rhythm (body language). …

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